How to go from talking to dating
I would like to know that he isn’t sleeping with anyone else and won’t be sleeping with anyone else while we are sleeping together.
Should I have the “defining the relationship” conversation with him or should I wait and allow things to evolve more?
Our chemistry was immediate (physical, intellectual, and emotional) and things have been very easy so far. I am totally comfortable with the speed (how often we are communicating, seeing each other, and sharing information about ourselves).
But, we recently slept together (it felt right and was great).
I agree with Evan’s advice to have the boyfriend/sexclusivity conversation before sex.
The only place I would differ is on the specific advice to the OP.
Now, this guy is such a front-runner that she drops every other prospect like a hot potato.
If he’s still a good guy who calls consistently, sees you consistently, and seems to want to be monogamous, then you should feel secure in giving him a shot, as opposed to doing what most of us do: hopping into bed first, “committing”, and realizing that we’ve made a terrible choice due to chemistry.I am scared of getting hurt and us not being on the same page.But, I am equally scared of pushing for something that is happening naturally and perhaps making him feel pressured and stressed about something that is easy and great, naturally. If I talk with him, how do I bring up being exclusive so that he doesn’t feel pressured?It’s the kind of thing that will be defined naturally by him calling you every day, spending every weekend with you, introducing you to his friends and family, and so on.In other words, you should both “know” what you are without a heavy discussion.
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I am very happy (and he said that he is happy when he is with me) and like him the more I get to know him.